What are the characteristics of women who are avoided by love? Are they all beautiful?

Oh, you there, struggling with that person who pushes you away with such a surprisingly cold attitude!

Ah, seriously… You must be so tired and just want them to stop already…

That’s what you want to say, right?

Well, you know, love-avoidance is different from “hate-avoidance,” but sometimes it’s a fine line, and the feelings of hatred can turn into an attitude that closely resembles love-avoidance.

They’re the kind who have a strong sense of reason, you see.

Their emotions get stuck in this awkward middle ground, and from the perspective of being avoided, it can come across as hate-avoidance.

Well, when it comes to the reasons for hate, it’s like top-secret information. You can’t just openly disclose it in this civilized society.

If you accidentally told the person the reason you hate them, it might end up being spread on Twitter like…

But, well, who has time for that kind of thing, right…?

You can’t really talk to anyone when you’re the one being avoided in love, can you?

The terms “love-avoidance” and “hate-avoidance” aren’t commonly known, so it’s not the kind of thing you can discuss with just anyone since they wouldn’t have a clue.

So, if you were to confide in someone close to you, it’s quite common for them to deny or not believe you.

In fact, the moment a woman being avoided in love seeks advice from someone, everyone would just wish for your happiness and say something like,

But the advice from people around you is futile, and the reign of love-avoidant men continues to prevail.

That’s why many women who are being avoided in love end up feeling shocked, thinking,

It’s hard to imagine that someone you have feelings for would treat you with such coldness.

And it’s only natural, right? If you show a cold attitude, the likelihood of being disliked increases, so it’s not something you would normally do when you like someone, as it would be seen as a sign of no interest.

You can judge love-avoidance by the characteristics of the women being avoided.

Alrighty then, let’s dive into this, shall we?

When you’re trying to figure out if a guy is avoiding you because he likes you or because he doesn’t, typically, the first thing you scrutinize is the dude’s behavior and gestures.

You’ll come across all sorts of claims like “A guy acting like this means he’s avoiding you because he likes you!” or “If he was avoiding you because he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t do that!” Information based on observing the bloke’s behavior is practically everywhere.

However, as much as the focus seems to be on spotting the signs from the guy’s side, the truth of the matter is that the most effective way to differentiate between the two types of avoidance lies in the characteristics of the women being avoided.

The reason behind this lies in the fact that the woman’s personality plays a significant role in why she’s being avoided in the first place.

In other words, rather than basing your judgement on the unstable and uncertain behaviors exhibited by the guys, it’s more accurate and quicker to first consider what kind of person you, the one being avoided, are.

Characteristics of women who are liked by men but avoided①

Women who can’t give up no matter how big of a shock they receive are like this precisely because they’re innately positive and have a rich sensitivity and high potential. Now, when I say “potential,” I’m talking about latent ability—something you’re born with.

Sensitivity refers to the ability to perceive things. For instance, someone who prioritizes their own senses when forced to make a choice, is a clear sign of sharp sensitivity and rich receptivity. So basically, they can instantly determine what’s good or bad for them, or whether it’s a yes or a no, based on their senses.

You know, people who often say things like, are usually the ones with rich receptivity.

So, those who live trusting their own sensitivity tend to feel uncomfortable with men who avoid them because they like them, and don’t say much. And as a result of trusting their own senses, they conclude:

At times like this, women who are being avoided seek solace in methods to distinguish whether they’re being avoided because of like or dislike. However, it’s tough to discern the subtle differences, as it can’t be explained in words.

It’s quite the pickle!

Characteristics of women who are liked but avoided ②. Be kind to everyone and be cheerful with everyone

let me tell ya something intriguing about women who are often avoided despite having potential. The tell-tale signs are their ever-so-sweet demeanor towards everyone, or their perpetual sunny disposition filled with smiles.

Now, what’s interesting is that these lovely ladies are all kinds of gentle, but bless their hearts, they don’t reckon they’re doing anything out of the ordinary. They just shower people with kindness like it’s second nature.

However, and this might surprise ya, this overflowing gentleness is often rooted in underestimating themselves.

You see, there’s this overwhelming sense of bashfulness at the heart of it all, which most often is the case.

As a result, they’ve kind of got this notion ingrained in them that being “kind equals being just”.

So at first glance, they might look like they’re brimming with confidence, full of sunshine and rainbows. But the moment they fail to be kind to someone or end up causing distress, they have this tendency to beat themselves up, thinking they’re no-good because they couldn’t uphold their sense of justice.

It’s quite a pickle, if ya ask me!

Characteristics of a woman who is liked but avoided ③ She is beautiful

One of the characteristics of women who are avoided in romantic situations is that they are often considered beautiful.

guys tend to have this general notion that they should be kind to beautiful women and that being a beauty brings only advantages without any drawbacks. But let me tell you, that’s not always the case.

Beautiful women can also face disadvantages, you know.

So, what kind of beauties end up on the losing side? Who becomes the prey of those avoidance-prone men, the ones who tend to avoid getting too close romantically?

It’s those who can’t see themselves as beautiful, even though they are indeed beauties. Or in other words, it’s the beauties who have a lower self-assessment of their own attractiveness.

Being beautiful is generally considered a significant advantage, yet when someone fails to accurately evaluate their own level of attractiveness, they may end up facing the harm that could have been avoided beforehand, head-on.

In other words, despite being susceptible to interference from others due to their beauty and facing one-sided harm,

In this way, by excessively blaming themselves for their inner thoughts and actions, they only end up empowering the mean-spirited individuals even further, resulting in a vicious cycle that magnifies the harm they experience.

Therefore, it can be said that beauties with low self-esteem are actually the ones most susceptible to the most unfair misfortunes in this world.

Just because they are beautiful and have the power to captivate others’ hearts, making them vulnerable to attacks, it doesn’t mean they are doomed to fall into the spiral of avoidance. If they can properly evaluate their own beauty, hold their head high, and embrace it with confidence, they are less likely to succumb to the cycle of avoidance.

If you want to delve deeper into why avoidance-prone men tend to avoid beautiful women, I recommend reading “[sukizakegokui]” for more detailed information.

Characteristics of women who are avoided by those they like④ Not very knowledgeable about themselves.

Characteristics of women who are avoided by those they like: Many of them, even though they believe they know their own personalities, actually have a limited understanding of how they are perceived by others. They tend to underestimate themselves rather than overestimate themselves.

Therefore, they often believe they are not loved despite being deeply loved, or they think they are not beautiful even though they are incredibly attractive. There is a significant discrepancy between how they are perceived by others and their own self-evaluation.

They are unable to grasp what brings them joy and what actions make them feel great, so they fluctuate between brightness and darkness depending on the situation at hand. They struggle with controlling themselves effectively.

Characteristics of women who are avoided by those they like⑤ They are highly sensitive and their hearts are on the verge of weakening.

One of the characteristics of women who are avoided by those they like is that their high sensitivity makes them keenly perceive even the slightest negative reactions from others. However, they struggle to effectively explain the reasons behind that negativity.

Even when having such thoughts, I don’t know what is causing it or how to explain it in words.

struggle to fully grasp these aspects in my own mind and lack confidence in effectively persuading the other person.

Therefore, even if it is someone I dislike, I lack the confidence to convincingly explain the reasons behind my inability to be kind, which makes it difficult for me to skillfully navigate such situations.

In other words, I’m not good at conveying my intentions smartly without being hated by the other party.

Therefore, if I can’t avoid it anyway,

And that’s how one arrives at such a psychological state.

However, if one continues to maintain such an approach in social interactions, they may find themselves unable to refuse unpleasant requests and faced with increasing opportunities to do things they don’t want to do. Moreover, in this harsh world, kind-hearted individuals often attract people who take advantage of their kindness one after another.

As a result, their life becomes filled solely with meeting those expectations, and naturally, they end up exhausted and burnt out.

They find themselves trapped in a distressing situation where they are burdened with responsibilities beyond their capacity, without even realizing it.

However, no matter how exhausted they may be, the belief that “kindness equals righteousness” pushes them further and compels them to push themselves beyond their limits.

In everyday life, when unable to express their true feelings, they unconsciously accumulate stress, and they become more susceptible to people who take advantage of their kindness and speak their minds without restraint.

Therefore, with each unpleasant experience, they blame themselves, leading to even lower self-esteem and gradually weakening their hearts

Despite having sharp sensitivity, gradually their senses become numb, making it difficult for them to distinguish between things they dislike and things they desire. This creates a vicious cycle where an inexplicable feeling of unhappiness persists.

This combination of being “highly sensitive yet having a weakened heart” makes it easier for them to receive silent messages from the man they like and find hope in them. As a result, they inadvertently fall into a pattern of pursuing the person they like, hoping for their help in healing their vulnerable heart.

It’s a little lonely, but the psychology of a man who avoids the person he likes at such times is…

That’s how he feels.

This “responsibility for your sense of righteousness” refers to the consequence of shouldering a burden beyond one’s own capacity, as I mentioned earlier.

I repeat, if you have any resonance with these aspects, the sudden cold attitude shown by the person you like, which feels different from before, is likely not just avoidance due to dislike but rather avoidance due to liking.

However, living with this mindset can lead to chronic accumulation of stress, making it more likely for you to unintentionally align with the dynamics of avoidance.

Overall, I understand that this may have felt a bit complex, but were you able to grasp the meaning?

If you want to identify men who are avoiding you, start by reflecting on your own personality and how you come across as someone who is being avoided. Take a moment to reconsider your usual behaviors and traits.

summary

As someone who is being avoided by those they like, it’s probably unexpected to realize that you are prone to being avoided.

For women who are struggling with men avoiding them, it may feel like an eternal theme, but please be reassured that avoidance doesn’t last forever.

After reading this page,

If you have such impressions, then I believe it is generally safe to conclude that the attitude of the man you like is indeed indicative of avoidance behavior.

For those who wish to delve deeper and make more specific judgments regarding avoidance based on the differences in the characteristics of those being avoided, I recommend reading [sukizakegokui]. It provides a more detailed explanation of the characteristics of women who are avoided, which should give you even more confidence in your assessment.

Funny enough, even our researcher Mēyan was once avoided by a man, but now they often go out for sushi and drinks together. Laughs.

Even though he glared at me with such a harsh expression…

Even though my emails were ignored…

just like this

Even though he repeatedly said that to me with a serious face…

That person, with whom I had intense and hostile conflicts multiple times…

Now, they are incredibly friendly and always smiling.

They actively pursue me, it’s quite amusing!

You really never know how life will turn out, right? (^^)